بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم
Yet again another anniversary. An anniversary that no one will celebrate, perhaps not even remember, not even know of.
There are three every year.
Three days of the year when I would quietly mourn just for while.
In the past I have shared ahadith, quotes and poetry written by others to express these feelings but today I write my own.
As the days of the times each of you left would draw near, I used to feel dread and shed many many heartbroken tears.
At times I hadnt even realised that its THAT day. Until I realised.
Memories emerging always seemed to creep in fast. Blurring my mind and heart with visions of that painful past.
As that day would draw near, every blur in my mind and smear in my heart would become crystal clear.
Always affecting me with pains deep into the pit of my stomach and cramps crawling down into my back. Empty mind and hollow heart.
Every time. One. Two. Three.
Three times. Every year.
But I learnt.
I learnt about the beauty of our faith.
Where a painful loss is a beautiful gain.
Where for even a prick of a thorn sins are forgiven. Losing each of you was so much more than that, and for that I know so much more we will be given.
The deeper the loss the more worthy the gain. The prize much more vast than this worthless worlds pain.
A reward our eyes cannot see, a reward indescribable by our limited speech.
A bounty too big for our small minds, a honour too great for our sin filled hearts. And yet it is there.
Three promises from the One who created everything.
Even though we are His disobedient slaves so sinful, He is the Knower of All, He is the All Merciful.
Even though you all left us each time without a single cry, a single smile or word.
On that Day your very first words will be for us! And the First to hear you will be the One who hears everything!
Your very first actions will be screening us against the Fire. Our three delicate shields strong against the raging flames. Our protection will be your only desire!
Your very first steps you will take when you are told, “Enter your parents into Paradise” and it will be the best you all will ever do for us. Not a single thing in this world equates to this and not the world and everything it contains. Nothing.
And now when those days descend upon me, I silently shed a tear or three.
These tears are a reminder of the rewards that await us like the rainbow after a storm, and now instead of emptiness my heart is filled with joy.
No more blurred mind. No more smeared heart. One day, a new life, our forever fresh start.
Just waiting to be with you three. Him and they and us is all that matters to me. InshaAllah.
The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah upon him, said, “Indeed the miscarried fetus will confront his Lord if He enters his parents into the Fire. So it will be said to him, “O fetus which confronts his Lord! Enter your parents into Paradise.” So he will drag them by his [umbilical] cord until he enters them into Paradise.” [Ibn Majah]
The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah upon him, said, “By the One in Whose hands is my soul, the miscarried fetus will drag his mother to paradise by his [umbilical] cord if she was patient [with the miscarriage], hoping to be rewarded.” [Ahmad]
Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: The death of one of one’s children is a screen against the Fire, and the same applies to miscarriage, and Allaah knows best. Al-Majmoo’, 5/287; see also Haashiyat Ibn ‘Aabideen, 2/228
It is narrated on the authority of ‘Aa’ishah, the Mother of Believers may Allaah be pleased with her that she said: The Messenger of Allaah , said: “No calamity befalls a Muslim but that Allaah Expiates some of his sins because of it, even if it is a prick he receives from a thorn.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
It is further narrated on the authority of Abu Sa‘eed Al-Khudri and Abu Hurayrah may Allaah be pleased with them that the Prophet , said: “No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah Expiates some of his sins because of that.” [Al-Bukhari]